I don't want to die with regrets.
Like you, I have no idea when death will come for me. But, I can say unequivocally, I am motivated by my heartfelt desire to die with no regrets weighing down my departure.
This inspired me to talk with my ex-husband after 25 years. We ended up having a year-long email exchange where we worked through what happened to us in our spectacular demise. It was very healing, for both of us. All good!
I have also forgiven my partner of 23 years and myself for that which was dysfunctional in our home. Very good!
Some regrets I have involve former friends and colleagues. I was less than delicate or a misunderstanding became insurmountable. In some instances I have made amends. But that is not always possible. People move away; people die. I now have a practice of self-forgiveness so that when those memories flash before my mental screen, I pause and release myself through words of forgiveness. I wasn't fueled by anything but human foible. I can let it go.
In my life now, I work hard to not incur new regrets and to make amends right away if I have trespassed. I also am a lot more intentional about who I am around and the quality of the connection between us. This has been a game changer.
I am becoming regret-less. It is a process. I would love to hear how you see it.
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