When I went back to work after my mom died, I did not expect such an outpouring of condolences from my staff.
I was very touched by the card everyone signed and by the verbal acknowledgements of this tender time.
I was thrilled to be back at work after two long weeks away. It was great to dive back in and focus on my job, using my mind in a very different way. A very welcomed distraction.
It was 7 years ago, but I still remember the looks of discomfort on their faces when they first saw me back in the office.
I knew it was their discomfort with death. What to say? Should the topic be acknowledged or ignored? How to act?
It seemed like people expected me to be bereaved, sad and barely functional.
But I was okay. My mom was ready to die. I didn't want to disrespect the peace and equanimity she died with, by 'acting' the role of the bereaved.
I wanted to be honest. If they had known my mom, they would have simply smiled and nodded to acknowledge her death. That would have been perfect.
I tried to help them feel more comfortable and let them know she had had a good death.
What tools would help in the workplace to accept death with more comfort and ease?
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